Friday, June 15, 2012

Father's Day

There is perhaps, no group as under appreciated as Fathers.

While as a society, we embrace Mothers, our Fathers are quietly provided with a tie, or a pair of socks and we feel that we've fulfilled our duty to "honour" them.

No disrespect to Mother is intended when I say that Fathers are perhaps the most influential people in our lives. That said, it almost seems that the role of a Father is eroding, or being usurped. My intention is NOT to enter into a dissertation explaining the apparent demise of that role in today's society.

The father of a righteous man has great joy;
he who has a wise son delights in him.


It's unlikely that the above statement would hold true had the Father not himself been a righteous man... as well as wise. Things like righteousness and wisdom are not easily measured, yet they are certainly recognizable. These things are not "taught", rather they are modeled. So much of the "teaching" has nothing to do what what we traditionally understand as "teaching".

“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished by how much he'd learned in seven years.”

 

Mark Twain's quote continues to be true, even twenty plus years (in my life) after the time in his life he had his epiphany.  Most fathers are a product of their times. Mine was of a time of war, hunger, displacement, and an understanding of children as chattel to be used as needed. I am of a time of affluence, progress, liberation, and generally peace. Is it any wonder that there may be paradigm differences in how we view things?


Aside from a few years of taking Twain's stance, there has always been a level of respect for Dad, even if at times it is solely as his position in the family tree... Father. No one could have taught me a better work ethic, and helped me to develop skills that are multi faceted, simply through the expectations that were at times perhaps a little excessive, but served to entrench the "you can do it, it's not that tough" way of thinking.

 

I credit my, "This was created by a man, so certainly it's not beyond my understanding" creed solely to him.


Fathers, good Fathers are the back bone of future generations. Without them, the skeletal form that allows us all to stand together, will collapse into a quagmire of a jello like substance. Need proof? Look around.

 

I've heard it said that, "You don't know if you've done a good job being a parent until you have Grandchildren."

 

Well done Dad.

 

Love you

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